CyberSex and CyberPorn


Cybersex is a virtual sex encounter in which two or more people connected remotely via computer network send each other sexually explicit messages.

This fantasy sex is accomplished by the participants describing their actions and responding to their chat partners in a mostly written, form designed to stimulate their own sexual feelings and fantasies. 

Sex in Cyberspace



«Cybersex» is a virtual sex encounter in which two or more people connected remotely via computer network send each other sexually explicit messages. This fantasy sex is accomplished by the participants describing their actions and responding to their chat partners in a mostly written, form designed to stimulate their own sexual feelings and fantasies. Cybersex can be practiced among intimate partners who are geographically separated, or among individuals who have no prior knowledge of one another and meet in cyberspaces and may even remain anonymous to one another. Sometimes cybersex is enhanced by the use of a webcam to transmit real-time video of the partners.

«Cyberdildonics» is a technology for remote mutual masturbation, where tactile sensations are communicated via a computer network. The newest interactive sex platforms allow humans and robots or humans and other humans to sex each other up remotely. Users are able to touch each other using various supported haptic devices from hand holding and kissing up to full penetrative sex — regardless of where they are in the world, from across a room to across an ocean. Virtual-reality technology allow people wearing full-body haptic suits, headgear and gloves to engage in tactile sexual relations from separate, remote locations. The most advanced peripherals use bidirectional force feedback telemetry to create simultaneous one to one motion and resistance between your and your partner’s devices. Suspension of disbelief and a vivid imagination must do the rest. “I feel the other - She/He feels me”. Organic intimicy at a distance. The bodys are separated, but telepresent and therefore they can touch each other and interact.

Artificial intelligence capabilities will add heightened levels of social interactions with non-human machines. Non-sexual needs are increasingly fulfilled by robots, avatars or digital communities. You don’t have to be a prophet to predict that our sexual needs will follow along. In the near future distinctions between virtual and lokal interactions will blur.

«Sex-ond lives» will redefine what it means to be in a relationship, have sex, and be in love. And couples will seriously discuss whether sex with robots constitutes cheating.


  • Baker, Andrea [1998] - Ohio University, Lancaster (USA)
    Cyberspace Couples Finding Romance Online Then Meeting for the First Time in Real Life
    This article summarizes early results from an ongoing study of online relationships. Eighteen couples filled in emailed, open-ended questionnaires discussing how they met online and them offline, what qualities attracted them to their partner, reactions of friends and family, among other issues.
  • Benedikt, Claire - University of Texas at Austin (USA)
    TinySex is Safe Sex 
    First appeared as “Thoughts on Cyberspace and Safe Sex” in Passionate Living Magazine (Nov. 1994); reprinted under this title in Infobahn Magazine (June 1995).
    Within cyberspace, men and women can in theory take a part of their sexuality and emphasize it without fear of consequences. There is no HIV, no herpes, no unwanted pregnancies. “The physical side of sex is under your control. And this opens doors. I can become this girl Kari, who is slender and young, with golden skin and a winning smile, who wears no clothes, and who sleeps with the stranger who meets her eyes and gruffly orders her to follow him. This drama would never happen in my real life, but in this fiction-world of words I can let my head do it, even my heart, and there’s an off-switch by my hand the whole time.” But it is important to remember that sexual harassment can still occur online. “While people might decide to merely roleplay unwanted pregnancy, STDs, or rape, as part of their character's lives, there are actual RL (real life) threats to be aware of. These range from harrassers claiming to know where you live in real life, to people who might bombard you every time you log in with curses or lewd suggestions; their ‘spam’ making it impossible to read anything else as they force your screen to scroll.”
  • Benschop, Albert - University of Amsterdam, Netherlands  
    NetLove and CyberSex: Bodiless Intimacy
    An analysis of the sexual and erotic peculiarities of Cyberspace (a buildings blocks for the sociology of the internet). Includes a Dutch version
  • Billion Wicked Thoughts
    Two young neuroscientists Ogi Ogos and Sai Gaddam initiate a revolution in the scientific study of sexual attraction. They studies the secret sexual behavior of more than hunderd million men and women around the world by observing what people do within the anonimity of the internet. They analyzed a billion web searches, a million Web sites, a million erotic videos, a million erotic stories, millions of personal ads, and tens of thousands of digitized romance novels. By combining online behavioral data with cutting edge neuroscience, they drew some startling and provocative conclusions. See also there talk at Google [2012].



  • Cooper, Al (ed.) [2000]
    Cybersex - The Dark Site of the Force 
    Philadelphia: Buchanan. 
    A special edition of Sexual Addiction & Compulsivity: The Journal of Treatment and Prevention. A collection of articles on the intersection of the internet and computer technolgy, and sexual compulsion. The Triple A Engine of Access, Affordability, and Anonymity combine to accelerate and intensify online sexual interactions. “Flirtation and innuendo, laong the staples of lesurely seduction, rapidly escalate into frank sexual discussions and proposals on the Internet. This abrupt and norm-changing shift evokes intense reactions. The speed, magnitude, and endless possibilities, as wel as the attendant effects, are without precedent.” Internet is just a medium of communication and online sexuality is neither inherently good nor bad. Internet can positively impact sexuality in numerous ways, but there are also inherent dangers in online sexual pursuits. The articles in this book are devoted to a scholarly examination of the dangers of cybersex and the clinical concerns of “how sexual interactions on the internet have the potential to exacerbate the problems of those already struggling to maintain some controle of their sexual thoughts and behaviors.”. As a result of their sexual surfing an increasing nummer of people have developed distorted, constricted, and otherwise unealthy associations with their sexuality.
  • Cruz, Elinor May / Sajo, Trina Joyce [2015]
    Exploring the Cybersex Phenomenon in the Philippines
    In: Electronic Journal of Information Systems in Developing Countries (EJISDC), 69(5): 1-21
  • Cyber-Love Stories
    A collection of cyber love stories, presented by the Love Life Radio Network.
  • Cyber Matchmakers
    • Match.com
      Online personals, matchmaking and dating offering a fun and safe environment to meet other singles. Free trial (every first-time registrant gets 7 days unlimited use).
    • Personal Possibilities
      Free, fast, and fun to find your perfect match. Once you find them, you can purchase “stamps” to send anonymous emails to the potential Mr. Right or Ms. Wonderful. You are notified whenever someone who fits the description of who you would like to meet joins. You can record a free Real Audio message to get to know each other.
    • Startpagina: Dating
  • Cybersex Transcripts
    Actual transcripts of cybersex sessions featuring Kristen passionately interacting with one or more partners.
  • Cybersex, Cyber-Romance, and Cyber-Eroticism
    Issue One of Cybersociology. Editor: Robin Hamman. It includes:


Dibbel, Julian
A Rape in Cyberspace
This article originally appeared in The Village Voice, December 21, 1993, pages 36 through 42. “They say he raped them that night. They say he did it with a cunning little doll, fashioned in their image and imbued with the power to make them do whatever he desired. They say that by manipulating the doll he forced them to have sex with him, and with each other, and to do horrible, brutal things to their own bodies.” And it all happened right in the living room. It’s the story of a man named Mr. Bungle, and of the ghostly sexual violence he committed in the halls of a MUD called LambdaMOO.


Empel, Emily [2012] 
The Future of Sex? 5 Trends That May Completely Transform Our Sex Lives
In: Alternet, 18.4.2012


  • Gaddam, Sai [2012]
    Sexual urges and internet searches
    Computational neuroscientist Sai Gaddam has a unique window into our brains and deepest desires — the internet. Analyzing over a billion web searches, millions of erotic videos and digitized novels, Gaddam shares wicked insights into the sexual desires we keep so private.
  • Gunsaullus, Jenn - San Diego, USA
    Robot Sex & Cyberdildonics [16:59]
    Is robot sex hot? Where are we headed with technology and sex? Can cyberdildonics bring people closer together? Dr. Jenn discusses this with Sean the Comedian. Her alter-ego, Spicy Suzy, hits the streets of San Diego to interview regular folk about whether cyberdildonics is cheating, manta sex, and more.


Hamman, Robin, B. [1996] - Department of Sociology, University of Essex (UK)
Cyborgasms: Cybersex Amongst Multiple-Selves and Cyborgs in the Narrow-Bandwidth Space of America Online Chat Rooms.
Hamman analyses two forms of cybersex in America Online chat rooms: 1) computer mediated interactive masturbation in real time and, 2) computer mediated telling of interactive sexual stories with the intent of arousal. He stresses that much of the information we obtain in face to face interaction is from body language and other physical cues. In narrow-bandwidth communications, this information is not transmitted, making misinterpretations frequent. This has led to the emergence of a new language which helps users avoid misinterpretations. Anonymity allows users to safely and freely experiment with their multiplicity of selves. Experimentation with these selves is possible, at present, only within the narrow-bandwidth space on online chat rooms. People become cyborgs when two boundaries become problematic, 1) the boundary between animal and human and, 2) the boundary between human and machine. Hamman calls the people presented in his paper ‘cyborgs’ because pieces of them are undeniably tied to the computer. He argues that we can only resist becoming cyborgs if we can fix the repressive ‘real world’ society that keeps us from experimenting with our multiplicity of selves. Until we live in a society where it is safe to freely experiment with sexuality and gender, he thinks we will be forced to become cyborgs.


  • Lee, Emma [2012]
    How Casual Cyber Sex Became My Most Intoxicating Drug
    In: Alternet, 13.5.2012
    The internet is a dangerous place for any sex addict, but for female sex addicts, there is the extra appeal of judgment-free access to an endless stream of sex partners willing to offer intimacy, flattery, money and whatever else it takes to get their attention. 40 percent of the most extreme cyber sex users are women. Those women are likely to ignore normal safety precautions to put themselves in high-risk situations with men they don’t know. Emma Lee has been a sex addict who fully embraced the internet’s ability to bring her a steady flow of anonymous sex partners. She describes her own experiences and those of other female sex addicts she interviewed.
  • Lust in Space
    A web site designed for those intrigued, fascinated, lured by, and otherwise “hooked” on the interdimensional relationships that evolve on the horizon of cyberspace. You will get some answers on questions like: If you are married and have an on-line relationship, are you cheating on your real-world spouse? Do you ever feel as though you have had a real affair after meeting another and having cyber-relations? Can an on-line love affair affect your feeling in the Real World for your spouse or partner? What should I do if I find this affecting my Real World relationship?
  • Lynn, Regina [2004]
    Ins and Outs of Teledildonics
    In: Wired, 09.24.04.




Oh Joy Sex Toy 
Editors: Erika Moen & Matthew Nolan.


What matters between modems

A virtual virgin tries to understand her various cybersexual encounters. Real cyber lovers know the question: “How do you know if it’s really a man or a women?” Tara doesn’t really know. 

“But isn’t the uncertainty part of the excitement behind cybersex? If you believe you are communicating with a man, and that man does it for you, I don’t think it really matters if that man is really a woman, or vice versa. You are engaging in a sexual/sensual encounter with a persona, and not the actual person. What that person has or doesn’t have between the thighs doesn’t really matter between modems. At least, that’s my take. I’m sure a lot of folks will disagree, but to each his (or her!) own. If you feel it’s necessary to know the true gender of your partner, meet them offline first and make them show you their package, otherwise there is no way of being absolutely certain. I say, if it feels good, do it. Don’t sweat the truth when what you’re getting off on is the fantasy.” Comprendre? 

[Published by Tara Rebele in Mix ’n Match, May 1997]

  • Stiffler, Scott [2008]
    Online Sex: My Space or Yours?
    In: Alternet, 9.4.2008
    Before there was cyberspace, gay men were compelled to leave the house and go to clandestine public places (locker rooms, rest rooms, parks) to hook up. Has the internet transformed gay men’s sexuality? In the 1990s, the primary characteristic of online interaction was anonymity; nobody knows you’re black, a woman, or gay. We’ve progressively moved from anonymous interactions to ones where we want to know more. More people flock to social networking sites where they can divulge information about themselves. Gays embraced going online not to enter a fantasy world, but to look for meaningful social interactions that will carry over into the offline world. When asked how gay men found their partner, it’s almost cliché that they say: ‘we met online’.
  • Stone, Sandy (Allucquère Rosanne) 
    Will the Real Body Please Stand Up?
    In: Michael Benedikt (ed) [1991] Cyberspace: First Steps. Cambridge: MIT Press. 
    One of the first researchers to investigate cybersex (from a transsexual perspective).
  • Suler, John D. - Rider University, USA


Unofficial Guide to Great Cybersex 
A funny look at cybersex from Jo-Anne. This is rule 1: “Before becoming involved in any kind of cybersex please make sure your spouse, boyfriend, kids, etc. are out of the room at the time.”



Young, Kimberley/ Cooper, Alvin / Griffits-Shelley, Eric / Buchanan, Jennifer / O'Mara, James
Cybersex and Infidelity Online: Implications for Evaluation and Treatment 
In: Sexual Addication and Compulsivity, 7 (10, 59-74,2000)
Romantic and sexual relationships over the internet can under certain conditions result in marital separation and possible divorce. The underlying cyber-culturals isssues that increase the risk of virtual adultery are explained in term of the ACE Model (Anonymity, Convenience, Escape). And finally it outlines specific interventions that focus on strategies for rebuilding trust after a cyberaffair, ways to improve marital communication.


  • Zevallos, Zuleyka - Australian Academy of Science
    Sociology of Sexuality
    Explains the sociological concept of sexuality and provides an overview of sexual practices in Australia and cross-cultural examples where institutionalised or sociallly sanctioned homosexuality have been endorsed.

Pornography in Cyberspace


Whenever a new media technology appears on the horizon, someone pops the question: “I can’t wait to see what the porn industry is gonna do with this.” From books to photos, and from VCRs to CD-ROMs to streaming video, nearly every new medium was either popularized or even pioneered by companies that allow people to watch other people in sexual explicit poses or actions. If half of all videotapes for sale in late ’70s hadn’t been X-rated, it might have taken VCRs a lot longer to reach critical mass in the early ’80s.

Yet no visual technology has ever been so perfectly suited to sexual applications as «virtual reality» (VR) because it allows us to exist inside the environment. The references are easy to find: Star Trek’s holodeckthe Matrix , and the Dreamatorium. The commercial sex industry is expanding the definition of sex. Augmented reality coupled with robotics will allow sex add-ons to supplement traditional offerings.: virtual sex worlds, remote sex and robot sex. Online sex workers increasingly will links their movements to remote sex toys or robotic look-alikes.


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